Will my child hate me if I choose adoption?
It’s a question that many pregnant mothers worry about: Will my child hate me if I choose adoption? The simple answer is, “no.” That’s because modern-day private open adoption is now available, and it removes the barriers that prevented adopted children of the past from knowing their own histories.
With modern adoption, a mother can choose to stay in contact with the adoptive family that she chooses for her child. This means that the child can grow up knowing their own birth and adoption story. The mother and adoptive family can work together to ensure that the child always understands that the decision to choose adoption was made purely out of love for them, by the mother as well as their adoptive parents. Our adoption counselors at Legacy Adoption Services® in Florida will always be here to support everyone involved, throughout the years ahead.
What are the benefits of modern open adoption?
While mothers can still choose closed adoption, in which the parties do not know each other’s identities and all records remain sealed, most adoptions today involve some level of contact between the mother and adoptive family. In the majority of adoptions we handle, the adopted kids grow up knowing their mother’s name, and typically, they can learn the reasons why she chose to give them a beautiful life with a loving family that she chose just for them.
Research has shown that private open adoption is beneficial to a child’s mental health and wellbeing in several ways.
- Open adoption gives the child a larger support system of loving adults, which provides additional stability and support as they grow up.
- Because they know their family background, children in open adoptions are able to develop a strong sense of personal identity, which provides a solid developmental foundation for coping with challenges that arise later in life, especially during adolescence.
- Families who are open about adoption continuously celebrate their child’s special way of joining their families, which destigmatizes adoption for the child and other family members.
- Children in open adoptions tend to be less anxious about their origin stories, as they do not have to wonder about unknowns or imagine possible negative scenarios that might have occurred in the past.
Depending on the mother’s preferences, which are documented in advance in her adoption plan, communication with the adoptive family may involve photo exchanges, phone calls, text messages, video calls or even in-person visits. Our adoption counselors in Florida are happy to help you think through your preferences and ensure that they are respected by everyone involved.
How our adoption counselors in Florida support successful adoptions after placement
By keeping the child’s interests at heart, adoptive families and mothers can work together to keep the lines of communication open and create a respectful, cooperative relationship. Growing up in such an environment helps to create emotionally healthy, confident, resilient children who will always know just how much they are loved.
These beautiful new relationships also help mothers find peace with the question, “Will my child hate me if I choose adoption?,” as they can see their child thrive and form a special relationship with them throughout the years ahead.
Our Florida adoption agency’s options counselors remain available to you after placement to support these relationships, mediate any potential conflicts, and ensure that agreed-upon boundaries are respected.
If you’re concerned about the question, “Will my child hate me if I choose adoption?,” we want to help you put your worries to rest. Contact or call us anytime at (239) 703-8600 to speak with our adoption counselors in Florida and learn more about the benefits of private open adoption for children’s health and wellbeing.